This year, I've decided to make resolutions, but this year, I'm focusing on one, somewhat general thing, instead of a bunch of things like "get more sleep", "get good grades", etc. (not that I don't want more sleep and good grades). By the name of this post, you've probably guessed, that thing is self-acceptance, and I feel like confidence goes hand in hand with that (in some ways).
Self-acceptance and confidence are both things that I've struggled with for a while, and I think everyone struggles with this to some extent. I could be wrong, but I think most people, specifically teens (such as myself), are insecure and unhappy with their appearance and doubt whether or not they're good enough. Part of the problem is society, making this image that people have to be "size 0" and can only be beautiful with pounds of makeup caked on their face. But, part of the issue is also within ourselves; letting that image get to us and letting us think negatively about ourselves. Another thing I've realized is that accepting yourself can't solely come from compliments from other people. Sure, everyone likes people telling you they like your eyes or hair or that you're a nice person, but self-acceptance can only come from you loving yourself (as cocky as that may sound).
This year I have decided that I didn't want to be a burden of low self-esteem anymore. I have always desired to be content with who I am and have confidence in myself. I want to think that I'm beautiful, worth something, perfect just the way I am. It seems so simple, yet so complicated. This is something I really want to work on instead of just ranting to people that I'm fat and ugly and stupid.
Now that it's a new year, I'm taking action. And hopefully someday, I won't weigh myself before and after every meal. I won't wrap my fingers around the bottom of my thigh to make sure they still touch. I won't think I'll fail every test that I take. I won't look at myself in the mirror and wish for a prettier face. I won't feel worthless. I won't cry. I'll be okay with who I am. It may take one year, it may take more, but accepting myself for who I am, is worth it to me. After all, this is who I'll be for my whole live; might as well make the best of it.
We have to realize things like, just because we aren't the best at something, doesn't mean we aren't good and won't get better. Just because there are skinnier people, doesn't mean we're fat. Just because we aren't the spitting image of a Victoria Secret model, doesn't mean we aren't beautiful. We can't spend our lives comparing ourselves to other people who we perceive as "better".
Have some respect for yourself. You are beautiful, you serve a purpose in this world, you're who you are for a reason. It's going to take a lot more than one girl in front of her computer screen to change your outlook though; the change has to come within you.
"To say "I love you" one must know first how to say the 'I'." --Ayn Rand
"Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are." --Marilyn Monroe
"...for once, you believed in yourself. you believed you were beautiful and so did the rest of the world." --Sarah Dessen
"We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves" --Dalai Lama XIV
"You're always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company." --Diane Von Furstenberg
I wish everyone the best of luck this year, whether you're battling these issues, or anything else.
♥Skittlez
(Okay so, whether this was obvious or not, everything in this post is my opinion, and I am aware that there are people out there with depression and other illnesses that have it way worse. We can agree to disagree about some of the things I said in this post, I'm fine with that, but no non-constructive criticism, please and thank you. There's so much more I could've said here, but I think I'll leave it at this. Oh and sorry this came out way more unorganized than I hoped. It's like 1 AM here, but I didn't wanna wait until morning because I'd forget everything. Just thought this all had to be said...Happy New Year!!)
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